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  • 5 Books That Will Change How You See The World

    I am SO excited to share this.

    As it’s World Book Day on March 5th, I was trying to think of a book-related blog that I could give you even though I already wrote The 5 Best Self Help Books Of All Time 📚

    So, this is a roundup of the books which promise to make you see things differently. After reading each of these titles, I experienced a profound shift. My eyes were opened to what each author was telling me, and I haven’t been able to return to my old way of thinking since!

    I hope these books will open your mind to new ways of seeing the world too…

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    “The Tipping Point is that magic moment when an idea, trend, or social behaviour crosses a threshold, tips, and spreads like wildfire…” – Malcolm Gladwell

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    It makes you realise that, as individuals, we have huge power to create change in the world. Just like a tiny match that looks so small, while being able to bring down a town.

    WHY I ❤️ IT…

    Confession time: Malcolm Gladwell is my favourite author so anything he writes is immediately a winner in my eyes! His journalistic style is what makes this book so convincing (he’s worked at The New Yorker & The Washington Post) and it’s packed full of fascinating research and anecdotes to illustrate what he’s saying. His point being that the effect of social contagion is the secret ingredient you’ll need if you want to create a change worthy of making the history books. Because even if at first it looks like nothing is happening, it might eventually reach a critical mass…

    A pivotal moment. A Tipping Point.

    Whether it’s a fashion trend, a global epidemic or a cultural zeitgeist – with enough time, luck and momentum – anything that starts off small can become significant. That’s why this book has the power to change how you think. I haven’t read Greta Thunburg’s book but I’m guessing the message is similar. No-one is too small to make a difference.

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    HOW IT CHANGES YOUR VIEWPOINT

    It shows you that there is life after death and that miracles are possible, as long as they serve a higher purpose. I’m much less worried about my own death after reading this book.

    WHY I ❤️ IT…

    If you want to know where people go when they die, this book will tell you. Like all of my best books, I’ve passed my own copy on to my mum, and then my friend Jessica to read! I’ve never doubted that our soul survives without a body, but Anita Moorjani literally tells you what happens next and what the experience of dying is like, first hand. Which might sound morbid and depressing, but it’s actually the opposite.

    It’s very apparent that the death is far more upsetting for the people still living, rather than the soul who is exiting Earth. As you might have guessed, the author Anita Moorjani was given permission to come back to life and have a second chance (as long as she shared this message) so this is a touching personal memoir about a near death experience (NDE). It’s beautifully written and I engulfed this one pretty quickly because I couldn’t put it down and wanted to know what happened next – pun intended.

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    HOW IT CHANGES YOUR VIEWPOINT

    When I was young, I believed that my teddy bears and toys were alive, but as adults we’re made to believe that this kind of thinking is silly. Marie Kondo sprinkles some of that magic back into your life with this book.

    WHY I ❤️ IT…

    Again, I gave this one to my mum to read! And she was reluctant to take it off my hands because she thought it would be a boring how-to-tidy guide with infographics about folding clothes. The cover doesn’t give much away (Marie Kondo is a Japanese minimalist after all) but the reason that this book has been so successful is because it’s touching, uplifting and a beautiful read. With no diagrams in sight!

    Marie didn’t decide to leave her optimism behind just because she turned 18, and I think that’s why people love her; we all want to feel that way again. She loves her possessions as if they are alive, and thinks that our belongings should be loved and adored to keep them happy and functioning. You might guess that her message is about owning less, but it’s actually about truly feeling grateful for everything you own. There’s a hidden spiritual current throughout this book as she talks about keeping what “sparks joy”, letting go, and feeling abundant with everything you already have. It’s also fun to learn how she freaks out her clients by kneeling down on the floor and greeting “the house” before them.

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    HOW IT CHANGES YOUR VIEWPOINT

    It makes you think of a brand as a life-force which connects people, rather than an empty business. Which is super helpful if you have one.

    WHY I ❤️ IT…

    I’ve read a lot of marketing books and this one is my all time fave. I actually recommend it to any of my coaching clients that I’m helping with their spiritual business, because it makes the whole process of marketing and branding seem incredibly easy, fun and intuitive. For your brand to attract your perfect clients, it should reflect your internal passion and therefore it should be fun!

    Donald Miller is a multiple New York Times Bestselling author and when you read his writing it’s clear why. This book is like candy to read, and it will make you feel more inspired about your brand than ever before as he guides you through how to bring it to life and make it flourish as a result. I only wish there were more business books this inspiring!

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    HOW IT CHANGES YOUR VIEWPOINT

    I hate winter and English weather in general, but this book made me think it’s not so bad…

    WHY I ❤️ IT…

    Instead of grey clouds, wind and umbrellas – think candles, blankets and hot cocoa. This is the general theme of the book: embrace the bad weather for what can be good about it.

    The Danish are said to be the happiest people in the world, in spite of the terrible weather that they have (akin to us in the UK + other places in northern Europe and North America). But why do the Danes consistently come out on top in happiness surveys? Because they fill their lives with a little Hygge!

    They celebrate being able to spend time together inside, safe from the cold, with snuggly socks and deep conversations by the fire. It is also possible to Hygge in Summer too, but what really stood out to me was the enjoying winter part, because that was the tonic that I really needed from this book. A great gift (it was a Christmas present to me from my mother) for anyone who needs a new perspective on enjoying life, whatever the weather.

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    Can you recommend any books which have changed how YOU see the world? Let me know in the comments or on Instagram!

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  • How To Use A Pendulum For Accurate Fortune Telling

    When we’re looking for guidance or confirmation about something that’s bothering us, using a pendulum can be a cheap and easy way to gain eerily accurate insight.

    A pendulum is a weight attached to a string – usually a crystal on a single length of chain, but some people use a necklace that they already own or their wedding ring on a chain. It just needs to achieve the swinging motion which will give you the answers that you’re looking for.

    People have different opinions on how a pendulum gets its answers, and they basically fall into these different theories:

    ⋆☽  We can stand firm in our truth, but in lies we falter under the weakness of our belief. Like muscle testing, your body itself is its own pendulum and will respond physically to truth or lies. Some people believe that the swinging of the pendulum comes from our body being its own truth-teller and making the pendulum swing a certain way with small muscle movements.

    ⋆☽  Some people also think that the pendulum swing is determined by your own energy and will therefore confirm or deny your own beliefs. As we already know – our beliefs create our reality – so if we believe something to be true then there’s a good chance of it becoming manifest in our physical lives in the future.

    ⋆☽  Pendulums are often used as a method of Divination, ie, to communicate with entities on the “other side” such as Angels, spirit guides, relatives in spirit, etc. This could also include getting answers from your higher soul self.

    However you believe the pendulum gets its swing, many people rely on them as a way to accurately predict their future…

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    If you buy a pendulum which instantly caught your eye, then you’re more likely to form a close connection with it and get reliable answers as a result. I looked for my pendulum for years, until I eventually stumbled across an Obsidian point unlike any I had seen before while I was at a crystal workshop. After years without a pendulum, I knew it was finally time!

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    If you go to mediumship circles or psychic development classes, the phrase “receiving hand” will be thrown around a lot. It is based on the belief that you are more connected to spirit through one side of your body than the other. For me, it is my left hand. If you are unsure what your receiving hand is, then go with whichever feels right and then try to keep using the same hand going forward.

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    For me, I know that clockwise means YES and anticlockwise means NO. To find out what your directions will be, start asking the pendulum questions that you know have a definite yes or no answer. For example, “I am female” or “the walls around me are white”. Some people will find that their pendulum swings back and forth or sideways instead of in a circular motion. Practice makes perfect, so make sure that you keep using your pendulum to allow it to become closely attuned with your energy. It will take some time to get used to you and consistently provide accurate answers, so don’t be discouraged if it’s a bit haywire at first!

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    The questions that you ask to your pendulum need to be closed yes/no questions instead of ambiguous and open-ended how/what/why/when/where questions. Your pendulum can only give you binary answers, so keep this at the front of your mind when you are asking questions about your future. As an example – people use a pendulum to ask if a certain food is good for them by holding it over the item, and if it’s a healthy high vibration food then the pendulum will answer YES. To get more than a simple yes/no answer see point no. 6!

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    It’s so important to get in the right headspace so that you’re not focusing on the answer that you’d like or subtly interfering with the pendulum’s direction. I like to rest my elbow on a solid surface to prevent this happening as much as possible. I also like to close my eyes as I meditate and ask the pendulum a question, because that way I don’t know which answer it’s given until I open my eyes. Our pendulums are really sensitive to our energy – which is powered by our thoughts – so we need to be super careful not to interfere with their motion.

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    If you want more than a basic YES/NO answer, then you can use a dowsing wheel. You just hold your pendulum above the centre-bottom of the wheel and then see which answer it directs you to. By using a letter dowsing wheel you can spell out the name of your spirit guide, and similarly with a chakra dowsing wheel you can find out which of your chakras are imbalanced. I have created a number, letter and chakra dowsing wheel pack which you can download and use for free…

    Get your number + letter + chakra pendulum wheels here!

    Download 3 FREE Pendulum Dowsing Wheels

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    As with the rest of your crystal collection, it’s so important to ensure that any energy they absorb doesn’t interfere with their power in the future. To maintain the accuracy of your pendulum, make sure that you’re cleansing it regularly with whatever method you would normally use.

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    A pendulum is another great tool in our spiritual toolkit to provide guidance when we feel stuck or confused. Using the dowsing wheels provided above will enable you to get more than a simple yes/no answer and can unlock the door to deeper spiritual development. Once you have found your perfect pendulum, remember to practice and stick with it to nurture a connection which can help guide you through the rest of this lifetime!

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  • What’s Your Ayurvedic Body Type?

    Our body is the living tool that our soul needs to deliver our gifts into the world.

    If we can integrate the legacies of our ancestors with the medical marvels of modern science, then we have the potential to enjoy a holistically healthy life where all parts of our being are working in tandem. As I wrote on my Instagram this week…

    “Our body is an instrument that our soul is always playing, but sometimes our ears aren’t listening so we wind up dancing to the wrong tune. Our mind, body & spirit all need to be nurtured together, as one, because when one part gets tuned out – the others lose direction.” (see the post here)

    Ayurveda translates to “the knowledge of long life” and is a set of medical practices originating from South Asia. Understanding our Ayurvedic Body Type enables us to improve our wellbeing by illuminating our metabolic make-up so that we can make our food and fitness decisions accordingly.

    To begin understanding our Ayurvedic body, we need to think in terms of the 5 elements (space, air, fire, water, earth) and the 3 Dosha’s. Ayurveda says that we are most likely to experience discomfort and ill health when our Dosha (aka body type) is out of balance and not having its specific needs met.

    So, I’m guessing you’re here because you want to know your own Ayurvedic Body Type? Read on to see which Dosha fits you best…

    Dosha #1 – VATA: The Marathon Runner

    These slim and slender folks are naturally lean, with visible joints and an unpredictable appetite. Vata’s are prone to digestion issues and intolerances, as well as dry skin and hair which can be brittle and/or frizzy. These are high energy individuals who love change and are lively and enthusiastic, struggling to keep still and always on the go – they will walk fast through the crowds just to get to where they’re going!

    This high octane energy means they are able to lose weight easily, but the downsides are that they become anxious under stress and are textbook worriers. They are also likely to be light sleepers who can be easily awoken at the slightest noise, and their moods can be fleeting and unpredictable. This is due to the Vata body type being ruled by the element of Air.

    You can also tell when you’ve been touched by a Vata as their hands and feet are likely to always be cold and icy to the touch – therefore they are the most likely to crave the sunshine and warm climates!

    Dosha #2 – PITTA: The Athlete

    Pitta’s have a medium build with a naturally muscular frame. To fuel this powerful body, they are very unlikely to skip meals and are predisposed to have an appetite for most foods. Their hair is likely to be thin, fine or they may go grey earlier than others.

    As Pitta’s are ruled by the element of Fire, you may want to take cover when they are under stress as they could become irritable, intense and aggressive. This fiery nature serves them well in competitive sports which they are likely to enjoy and excel in, and they will perform any activities they are assigned with determination and purpose.

    Unlike Vata’s, Pitta’s are usually warm to the touch and may even look slightly flushed – possibly because of the fire burning inside of them! For this reason, they may prefer to steer clear of hot climates and hide in cool temperatures to regulate themselves. Pitta’s are usually adept at managing their weight, particularly when they use exercise.

    Dosha #3 – KAPHA: The Coach

    Kapha’s are built with a sturdy frame and take great pleasure in eating – but can skip meals easily as they have slow digestion. This is particularly true for breakfast, because they are long and deep sleepers who take a long time to liven up in the mornings. Their skin is likely to be moist and oily, and their hair is likely to be thick and wavy. Of all the body types, Kapha’s are the most likely to encounter weight gain issues in their lifetime.

    Kapha’s take life at a leisurely pace and will usually walk as such, seeking out activities which can be completed at their own leisure or for the sole purpose of seeking joy. They may also learn slowly, but once knowledge is imparted it will be deep and long lasting. As stressful situations disrupt their pursuit of pleasure, they become withdrawn or depressed when in their midst. Their driving purpose is to nurture and support others, which is where they contribute enormous value due to their easy-going and caring nature.

    Their least favourite weather is a wet and rainy day, as they are already ruled by the element of Water. You may not know it though, as their moods are mostly steady and stable which only adds to their calming influence!


    YOU MAY HAVE NOTICED THAT YOU HAVE SOME VATA, PITTA, AND KAPHA ELEMENTS…

    This is normal, and the unique mix of these Dosha’s within us is known as our constitution. The ratio of each Dosha in our constitution provides an optimal blueprint for our health. For example, Vata’s should steer clear of foods which can irritate their digestion such as dairy & gluten, while Pitta’s should avoid a sedentary lifestyle where they are not able to let off steam through movement. Health problems will arise when Dosha’s are unbalanced due to unwise diet and lifestyle choices, as well as being exposed to stress and emotional trauma – all of which upset the natural state of equilibrium your constitution craves.

    Each Dosha governs particular physiological realms and some of the following issues could arise from living a lifestyle out of balance with your Dosha’s needs:

    Dosha #1 – VATA

    Governs: Movement, Communication, Creativity, Flexibility, Nervous System

    Signs of Imbalance: Fearfulness, anxiety, isolation, loneliness, exhaustion and burnout, blocked communication, unusual movements such as tremors & spasms

    Dosha #2 – PITTA

    Governs: Nutrition, Metabolism, Intelligence

    Signs of Imbalance: Fiery and reactionary emotions like anger, frustration and jealousy; criticism, inflammatory disorders affecting the organs and tissues

    Dosha #3 – KAPHA

    Governs: Joints, Skin, Immunity, Love, Compassion

    Signs of Imbalance: Attachment, greed, possessiveness, stubbornness, lethargy, resistance to change, stagnation


    Hopefully by now you can see elements of yourself within these 3 Dosha’s! Understanding your Ayurvedic body gives you an ancient insight into your strengths and challenges, and can help to improve awareness of your physical body.


    Do you think you know someone who is definitely a Marathon Runner, Athlete or Coach? Share these Ayurvedic body types with them to see if you are right!

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