Caroline dweck

  • How 3 Minutes of Meditation Changed My Life

    The “M word” is everywhere these days, but once you’ve tried it – you can see why.

    Having to steer these human minds towards our soul’s goals will inevitably mean that we fall prey to paralysing procrastination at some point. Because as I said in the 8 Secrets of Success video, our brain only wants to drive us to food, sex, warmth, and then more food. When the mind shouts its survival demands at us so loudly, the quiet guidance of the soul can easily get drowned out.

    But once I started to practice emptying my mind for just 3 minutes at a time, amazing things began to happen…

    Holding your mind for just 3 minutes every day is actually incredibly challenging, regardless of how simple it sounds! Trying to quell the mind is an unenviable task in itself, but then trying to maintain meditative stillness while intrusive thoughts pop up is a very complex ask of our primal brains. They have done amazingly well to bring us this far in our evolution, but to reconnect with the subdued spiritual power that we all possess, we need to strap these primitive urges into the back seat for 3 minutes.

    If you are seeking more clarity, focus and greater accomplishment in your life, then I urge you to set aside just 3 short minutes every day for a regular meditation practice. If you have tried my 5AM routine then finding the time will be easy for you! But if you are looking for a big return on a small investment with minimal disruption to your current routine, then committing to 3 meditative minutes each day will bring these positive changes into your life;

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    Procrastination happens because we succumb to our mental chatter and indulge in the fear of moving forward, or because we feel confused about what to do next. By switching into meditation mode, you can hold the brain still and keep mental chatter at bay in order to crack on with your to-do list and hear intuitively what your next step is. To get more done often requires thinking less.

    Whatever job you have, I’m sure that it’s fast-paced, demanding and stressful at times. When you are well-versed in your meditation practice, you can flip into a pared-down sort of meditation mode at any moment in order to stay focused and intentional in your work actions, without getting stressed out and becoming less efficient as a result.

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    Our energy follows our mind, so if our thoughts are going haywire then our energy is too. Enter the M word! If our mind is still, it’s easier to align; connect; channel; flourish. By making space in our mind first, meditation gives our energy time to regroup and realign.

    It is blockages – aka dense fear energy – which prevent us from feeling the easy breezy vibe that naturally follows when we align our energy. Once you are neatly aligned, life just flows through you – and you just flow through it.

    So through meditation, you can make your energy work for you. Imagine a beam of safe and secure energy flowing down from the sky, through the top of your head, through your body, and into the centre of the Earth. When you are secure and anchored in this meditative space, then you have the power to be infinitely bold and fearless because nothing can shake you. When you are unshakeable in your connection to your own energy source, then it becomes a lot harder for anyone else to sway you with their own agenda.

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    Meditating puts you in the driver’s seat. Instead of starting your day off by being reactive, you are choosing to be proactive and harnessing your own power before people start demanding it from you. Spending 3 quiet minutes in meditation will ground you and keep you centred, so that your energy can remain anchored and serve you in the best way possible.

    When you feel balanced and secure in your own energy, then you will naturally feel more assured in yourself and people will start to respond to this energy update in kind. When you are more balanced and secure through meditation, you will experience fewer people “trying their luck” with unfair demands once they start to perceive that their efforts aren’t worthwhile.

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    Just 3 minutes of meditation every day is a tiny commitment in terms of time, but the potential benefits to be gained are enormous. If you can devote more time to your meditation practice, then you can expect to see these results being multiplied many times over! But if you want to make a change and don’t know where to begin – all it takes is 3 short minutes to change your mind, change your life, and change your own piece of the world as a result.

    What benefits have you had from meditation? Let me know in the comments!



  • Thank You For The Struggle

    The best of us comes out in the worst of times.

    When times are hard, they force us to work harder, think smarter and find alien new levels of resilience. When times are tough, we have the chance to get even tougher.

    Very often it’s easy to look back on something that felt “bad” and later appreciate that it was in our highest interest for leading us onto x, y and z. But before the gift of hindsight we can feel crushed, lost and bewildered when a crisis strikes (imagine The Tower tarot card!) Even if it’s not a sudden crisis – testing relationships or jobs can drag out a struggle period and make it feel more and more intense over time.

    To solve this, I’m trying to maximise the utility of what I call the best outcome time lag. It means searching for the positives when only the negatives are obvious, and trusting with complete faith that everything will always work out in our highest good. As I’ve said before – without faith, we don’t move mountains and it is always too easy to give up. (read Keep The Faith here)

    But Liz, this struggle doesn’t feel so good…

    Struggles can be beautiful if we let them, because there are lessons interwoven between the fabric of our existence. When they are pulled apart and stretched – the lessons can finally be released and rise to the surface. This is why all trials and tribulations are really a wonderful thing. We move forward, we grow and we learn. If we can be thankful for the outcomes in the midst of the struggle period, then we are truly living in a state of gratitude and honouring our full vibrational frequency. If we can live from a high vibrational frequency as much as possible, then we are easing into beautiful new realities all the time and attracting more of the goodness that we find it easier to love.

    One of the best concepts that I’ve learnt this year is Caroline Dweck’s distinction between a “growth” or a “fixed” mindset. Super achievers like Arnold Schwartzenegger and Mohammed Ali have a growth mindset because they are always looking for the next struggle in order to grow and elevate to their next level. People with a fixed mindset will never reach the same heights of greatness because they may be doing well, but they find too much comfort in the tried and tested route that they already know. In other words, they are trying to sidestep the struggle.

    In order to truly grow, we have to flow with the struggle. Embrace it and sometimes even look for it when the next level is calling us. Breaking boundaries is not comfortable, and clearing relationships and clutter to make way for a life upgrade is definitely not comfortable either. But what is on the other side of the struggle is great, and so we should be great-full for the struggle as the vessel which takes us there.

    Whether we like it or not, the struggle is our shuttle bus between realties and our teacher of wisdom. When we thank the teacher, we respect the lessons and acknowledge their value to us.

    Saying thank you for the struggle may not always be easy, but it will always be worth it once we receive its parting gifts on the other side.