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  • How The Throat & Sacral Chakra Are Linked

    If you’ve been feeling creatively blocked and are struggling to find an easy flow with your expression, the key could be hidden in the link between your throat and sacral chakra. 

    You may already be familiar with what these energy centres represent…

    The throat chakra governs our vocal expression and what we communicate to the world. Physically, it rules the throat, voice, mouth, tongue, lips, teeth and sinuses.

    The sacral chakra is located below the belly button, where the uterus is, and governs creativity, pleasure, sexuality and our supply of feminine energy. Physically, the sacral rules the sexual organs and urinary system.

    To be clear, “feminine” is the Western term for Yin energy – which has more sensitive, intuitive and receptive qualities than the “masculine” Yang energy that we’d be more likely to see in the solar plexus. Everyone, regardless of gender, has a supply of both feminine and masculine energy.

    Maybe you’re reading this and none of it is new to you so far, but did you know about this link between the throat and the sacral?

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    It’s clear when looking at this image that the pelvic floor and vocal cords have a similar physical design. The same is true of the larynx and uterus. Energetically, the centres these organs reside in – the throat and sacral – are both sources of creativity and expression. 

    For females, there are patterns birthed from historical gender-based trauma that can severely limit how safe a woman feels to speak, be heard and stand up for themselves. As recently as the 1800’s, women were literally put into mental asylums and subjected to genital mutilation for having an opinion contrary to their husband’s (and unfortunately, this isn’t an exaggeration – this Time article comes with a trigger warning…)

    When having a certain set of reproductive organs was directly related to how safe you were to speak, it’s no surprise that so many of us are carrying generational trauma in our DNA that tells us to keep quiet and limit our self expression in order to stay safe. Undoing all of this requires bravely doing the deep healing work that’s already part of the spiritual path you’re on if you’re reading this article.

    If we aren’t saying what we want and advocating for ourselves, we’ll have blurry boundaries and end up being overwhelmed. The less we honour ourselves as sacred and find time to have fun, the more depleted our sacral chakra will become.

    It’s important that we use our voice to say our needs out loud, so that we can protect our time and space to do the things we enjoy. If we aren’t finding time for self care, it might be because we’ve said “yes” to too many things which are out of alignment.

    There are also physiological links between the organs in the throat and sacral chakras. The word ‘cervix’ is Latin for ‘neck’ as it was called the neck of the uterus.

    The jaw and pelvis are connected by a long line of fascia (connective tissue) that goes from the coccyx to the end of the tongue. By completely relaxing the jaw – particularly during childbirth – the muscles in the pelvic floor can relax and open too.

    If we’re so stressed that we’re tensing our jaw, that same tensing motion will be happening in our pelvic region too. Both areas are supported by diaphragms that move with the rhythm of our breath. There is similar membrane tissue surrounding the cervix and vocal cords, and when we breathe deep enough, the respiratory diaphragm triggers the vagus nerve which reaches down to the pelvic bowl and makes it relax.

    Both our jaw and hips store unexpressed anger, which can come out at night as jaw clenching and grinding, or in yoga as an emotional release from the hips.

    These two areas are linked in every way – psychologically, energetically, emotionally and physically.

    If you’re having issues expressing yourself with words, it’s likely that you’re also struggling to claim your true desires.

    What you enjoy is intrinsic to you and no-one will know what that is until you say it out loud. Your sacral lights up when you’re doing what feels good to you, and to get more of what feels good, you need to ask for what you want – declaring it boldly as your true, unhindered desire – whether that’s to the Universe or your partner.

    By understanding that your body is linked and your chakras are linked – you can start to make sense of what has been holding you back. It’s time to activate what’s been stored inside you in silence. And release it.


  • Why I’m No Longer Using The Word “Woo”

    Woo is a word that I will no longer be using…

    I used to use it until I realised what I was trying to say: that even though I believed in what I was saying, I felt like I needed to tone it down to make it acceptable to other people.

    When we say “OK, this is a bit woo, but hear me out…”, what we’re really saying is “I know you think it’s silly so I’m going to pretend that I don’t believe in it as much as I actually do…”

    What I’ve found is that as I’ve moved further and further along my spiritual journey, I care less about what other people think because I’m more sure of what I consider to be truth. As I experience more and tune in more to the spiritual world, it leaves less room for avoiding or denying certain things – even if other people can’t see them yet.

    Whether it’s psychic senses, energy, law of attraction, or astrology, if that’s really what you believe then you don’t need to water it down with woo. It’s OK for you to believe what you want to believe if you think that it’s true.

    Next time you feel yourself hesitantly putting forward an opinion and watering it down with the word woo, tune in to why you feel this is. From my own times using the woo word, it was because a witch wound was being triggered so I was scared to put forward a spiritual point of view.

    But it’s this witch wound from our past lifetimes where we were persecuted for our beliefs (which was probably everyone reading this blog) that compels us to label our beliefs more safely as weird and woo instead of true.

    How would it feel to remove the woo and just say what you really want to say?

    How would it feel to give your advice – knowing that it’s what someone needs – without watering it down at all?

    How else could you share your spiritual opinion while honouring the power that you know it has?

    If we leave no room for the word woo, then we’re taking up all of the space available with our truth of what we believe to be right; and not only what we believe to be right, but what we believe to be helpful. That’s why we’re putting it forward in the first place.

    So, this is just something to think about – and again, no judgement for using the word woo because I did too! Hence why I’m writing this, because I had the realisation of why I was actually doing it and why I have since stopped…

    I believe that the spiritual point of view is becoming more and more normal, and soon there’ll be no need for the word woo because we won’t feel like we have to water down our ideas and opinions.

    If you think something is going to heal and enlighten people, then just share it with the world without feeling like you need to acknowledge other people who think it’s silly.

    If you don’t think it’s silly then say it because you think it’s true – without the word woo.


  • The Secret To Success In Spirituality

    If I can leave my clients with one thing, it’s more love for themselves than they started with, because I know that from there they can create anything else they want to.

    For spiritual people especially, it’s the most important piece. If you can’t trust yourself and what you’re seeing, hearing and feeling, then how can you ever deliver messages to the people who need them?

    You won’t.

    Because without that trust component – believing in yourself and the intuition you’re getting – you’ll never have the confidence to deliver it.

    Through my work as a Spiritual Coach and Tarot reader, I have witnessed the most important component first hand. I’ve noticed the difference between those who go big and achieve great things, and those who take longer to get started.

    They love and trust themselves enough to ask for what they want and talk about what they have to offer, because they believe in their own message.

    Without self love, selling is scary and the marketplace seems daunting and insurmountable.

    But actually, the most insurmountable thing of all is getting over our own fears and limitations. When we don’t love ourselves, we play small to avoid attention. We try hard to fit in because fitting in is easier than standing alone.

    And we put other people’s advice first because we don’t realise the value of our own.

    A person full of self love knows what they want and they know that they’re going to get it. They believe in their intuition and don’t allow themselves to get sidetracked by what other people are saying and doing.

    They get what they want eventually, because they believe that’s what they deserve.

    If I could give you one tip for doing well in spirituality, in business, and in spiritual business – it’s to go your own way. Trust yourself. And know that you and your love for yourself is the secret sauce behind it all.

    That’s right… you are the secret to your own success!

    Through all of the work that I’ve done with people, I know this shift can be life-changing and groundbreaking. That’s why I want everyone to connect with their sovereignty and have brave boundaries around their own energy so they can avoid confusion from outside influences.

    Via confidence comes clarity and a clear plan of action.

    It will help you to see what you already have and that you don’t need anything else for your own success. As a result, you’ll stop chasing after the wrong things that will never quite get you the payoff or satisfaction that you’re looking for.

    It will help you to get to the root of old issues so that you can finally process them, clear them and move on.

    It will help you to be braver and bolder as a result of simply connecting back to who you are.

    If you want to accelerate your growth from an aligned and fulfilling place that feels like home, try reconnecting with your own soul and lead from your self love.


  • What Does It Mean If You See An Orb?

    There are different theories about what it means if you see an orb. I’ve never experienced one myself, but I’d heard the word flying around (no pun intended) and read about them in Wayne Dyer’s book, Wishes Fulfilled, where he shows a series of photos of his family with clear, white circles of light captured next to them. Depending on who you’re talking to about this, you’ll hear different things – so the most important thing is to discern what it means for you. Does it feel like a sign? An optical illusion from the photography process? Or a visit from the spirit of a passed loved one? The context can also give you the answer you’re looking for. For example, the colour of the orb, whether it was seen in real life or in a photo, and the situation it was seen in. Take your own meaning from this information, and see which answer feels best for you. An orb is a round sphere of light captured in a photo or seen hovering with the naked eye. They’re usually white but can come in different colours which I’ll talk more about below… It’s this part that is up for debate. The majority of the time when they’re seen in photos, it’s some dust in the air which has been illuminated by a flash. However, this is when it’s important to start assessing the situation and surroundings of the photo. If there was no flash and no focused stream of light to show particles in the air like that, it starts to become more mysterious.

    Often when people believe that a photo of an orb is the spirit of a passed loved one (like in Wayne Dyer’s example), it’s because they appear in photos of important occasions, like a wedding, graduation, Christmas or family party. At these high energy events with all of the family there, you’d assume these would be the moments for spirits to visit and manifest as an orb. In these instances, people may take it as a sign that a much loved family member was there in spirit. When seen in real life, there are also stories of pets being drawn to them. Dogs will bark and cats will chase them. There are countless tales of – particularly dogs – reacting to metaphysical phenomena like this. Their ability to pick up frequencies is far greater than the human body’s ability, so if you think of orbs as high frequency energy, it would make sense that animals can sense them more than we can. If you think you’ve seen an orb, ask yourself these questions:
    • Was it in a photo or seen with the naked eye? If you’ve seen a floating ball of light with your naked eye, it’s much more likely to be a spiritual phenomenon.
    • What event was this orb seen at? Happy events with family members are more likely to have a visitation from a loved one.
    • How did you feel about it? Is there something in your mind telling you that it’s just dust in the photo? Or did it give you goosebumps and the feeling it’s something supernatural?
    In summary, it really depends on the specific situation the orb has been seen in and your own interpretation of the cause. If you think you’ve encountered an orb that’s high frequency energy (and not an optical illusion), the colour of the energy might tell you the purpose of its visit. The most commonly seen are white and clear orbs. The energy of these is light, positive, and usually thought to indicate the spirit of a loved one. Conversely, a dark orb (such as a black orb) can be interpreted as a sign of danger or to say that there’s something to be cautious about. It could also mean there’s a low vibration spirit living in the place where it was seen. Blue is the colour of our Spirit Guides (as it says in the book Journey of Souls) so if you see a blue orb, it could be interpreted as a visitation from one of yours. Similarly, purple orbs are considered to be a spiritual message reminding you of your soul origin and asking you to follow a spiritual calling. Green is always related to the colour of healing in spirituality, so you could see a green orb as a message that healing energy is being delivered to you. The colours of the orbs have also been linked to the colours of different Archangels. As well as spirits, orbs are viewed by some people as a visitation from an Archangel. There are many different opinions about the colour that each Archangel will show up as, so I’ll leave it to you and your mind’s eye – but from my own experience, I’ve found AA Raphael to be seen unanimously as green and AA Michael to be somewhere on the spectrum between light blue and silver.

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    Whether you see an orb as a positive omen or a spooky optical illusion, it’s definitely an interesting phenomenon when they appear. If you think they symbolise a visitation, then it’s wonderful to have photographic proof of that. If you don’t think a spirit would show up in that way, then that’s fine too. When you’re trying to understand what it means when you see an orb, the most important thing is how you feel based on your interpretation of the circumstances.