♞ Mindset ♞

  • 8 Unusual Habits of Highly Successful People

    We make our habits and then our habits make us.

    How we spend our days is what distinguishes the billionaires from the millionaires from the average Joe/Joanne. The super successful elite have learnt the skills of time management and prioritisation, as well as the biggest success secret of all – a winning mindset.

    They practice, embrace failure, and have a powerful morning routine.

    They have faith in their dreams and vision, and are innovators who solve problems.

    Tony Robbins taught us that success is replicable, so below I summarise what I have found to be key themes in the lives of the world’s most successful people – like Elon Musk, Steve Jobs, Richard Branson, Michael Jordan, Oprah.

    I also need to stress the importance of energy work to you! You will need to envision, embody and “act as if” you are the person that you want to become. What do they think about? What do they wear? How do they behave? This will all help you to become an energetic match for the new life you desire.

    So – what do highly successful people do differently?

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    Highly successful people know that time is their most valuable asset because it can’t be replaced, unlike money. Therefore, they will capitalise on time efficiencies and spend money on things that will save them time in the long term, rather than cash in the short term. This is the opposite of what many people do when they choose to do tasks themselves in order to save cash immediately. This distinction between long term and short term thinking is a key feature of the super successful. For example, they will hire cleaners, chefs and assistants in order to save time on low value-add tasks, even if it’s expensive in the short term. They know that – given time – they will compensate for this expense in the long term, leaving them with a net value gain.

    They’re also masters at prioritising and will organise their daily tasks in order of what will bring the most value, rather than what will please other people or diminish their anxiety the most. They will have multiple streams of income, many of them passive, so that they can literally make money in their sleep and avoid limiting their income by only getting paid per hour that they’re working.

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    When reading autobiographies of the world’s most successful people, meditation is a noticeable theme. Before Apple was born, Steve Jobs went on a barefoot spiritual adventure to India where he walked 7 miles every day to get lunch for free from a Hare Krishna temple; he had just left college with no great fortune yet. This trip not only made him highly spiritual, but it also taught him to train his brain using meditation.

    Even CEO’s who don’t identify as “spiritual” use meditation to calm their brain’s impulses, stay focused on their higher goals, and remain vigilant in their pursuit of greatness. If meditation is new to you and you struggle to keep your mind quiet, then using a meditation app or short guided YouTube video can help.

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    The game changers know that the world is malleable, so they don’t take the status quo for an answer. People like Elon Musk, Bill Gates and Steve Jobs are far less suggestible than other people, and made it their life mission to carry out their vision for a new and improved world. They don’t allow themselves the time to indulge in a victim mindset, and will actively seek to change things that they don’t agree with. In a world made of energy where we all have access to the Law of Attraction, it is always possible for you to start changing your own world at any given moment too.

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    Without knowing where you’re going, it’s impossible to ever get there. Arnold Schwartzenegger attributes his lifetime of success to habit number 4. He said that having a deadline – in the form of weightlifting competitions – spurred him into action and left him without spare time for procrastination or buffering. He knew with conviction that he wanted to become Mr Universe, so he gave this goal 100% of his energy and focus until he reached it. Physically writing down your goals and creating a vision board will give you clarity if you’re feeling unsure or lacking direction.

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    Jim Rohn said we “are the average of the 5 people that we spend most of our time with“. Whether this is entirely accurate or not, the people that we spend our time with certainly influences our success. It’s important to point out that you are spending your time with these people – your most limited and valuable asset of all, so always spend it wisely with people who will lift you up and support you.

    This habit is especially important if you’re empathic or highly sensitive. We are all sharing our energy and responding to other people’s during our interactions, so if you’re with negative people who don’t understand your vision or goals, then you need to start building a network where you can share and grow your ideas. It may feel like you’re alone now, but with the internet and 7 billion other people on the planet, there are more opportunities for meetups and finding like-minded souls than ever.

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    You all know that I rave about my 5am starts, and it turns out that I’m not the only one! Richard Branson also gets up at 5am to play tennis before dealing with Virgin business for the rest of the day, because successful people like him make time work as efficiently as possible for them. The author of Girl, Wash Your Face, Rachel Hollis, also gets up at 5am because she said that it’s the only time in a day that she finds to read and meditate between looking after her 4 children and multi-million dollar business.

    If you think 5am is early – Mark Wahlberg and Dwayne “the Rock” Johnson have both said that they get up at 3.45am to work out before a day of filming on set. Not having enough time to be successful is an easily accessible excuse, but if you’d like to add extra hours to your day then I strongly encourage you to download the timetable and try this 5am routine to enjoy the results of making a real change.

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    Thinking of solutions to common problems is how most super successful people achieve notoriety, and to make this happen they need to have time to think. This means that they’re not spending their evenings watching TV or their days mindlessly scrolling on Facebook. Steve Jobs famously had very little furniture in house, and said that he’d never let his children have an iPad. Technology is a wonderful thing with loads of huge benefits, but if it comes at the expense of productive thinking time, then it will strangle your success.

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    A productive tool that we have control over is our bodies. What we input (in terms of food and exercise) will determine our output (in terms of energy and productivity). According to studies, regular exercise makes you feel more motivated and clear-headed, which is essential for fresh new innovative ideas to flow through to your awareness. When these great ideas come in, you’re then able to strategise and act on them to create the solutions for people which will bring you huge success.

    “I’m here to tell you to avoid putting your ladder on someone else’s wall and then spending the best years of your life climbing it… Find your own wall, your own dreams, and your own goals, and pursue them.” – Tom Corley (author of “Change Your Habits, Change Your Life”)

    We all have the power to create our own success by being unrelenting with our dreams and uncompromising with these 8 habits. As I always teach, whatever you choose to create is within reach. There is so much available at each step of your journey to support you; even when you feel completely stuck – stop, drop & meditate and eventually the path will become clear. You have all of the answers within you, and I can’t wait to see what you create.

    To your continued success…

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  • What I Learned From Diving With Great White Sharks

    Yes, it really happened. My biggest fear has been sharks for as long as I can remember, and as the most notorious of the species, Great Whites were always at the pinnacle. To give you an idea of how bad it used to be, I wouldn’t even step into the icy Atlantic waters of England for fear of a shark encounter, so as for jumping off the side of a boat on holiday – you could forget it!

    But that all changed on Saturday 16th March 2019. My fiancé and I left our beachside apartment in Pringle Bay at 5am to drive to Gansbaai, which is a shark diving hub 2 hours south of Cape Town. We spent the best part of the day on a shark diving trip which included safety talks, changing into our diving gear, and then going on the dive itself. For me personally, it was a life-changing experience and these are the most profound lessons that I learned.


    You are stronger than you know…


    Our fears can feel insurmountable and more terrifying than we can handle, which is what makes them so severely limiting. However, when the time calls for it, we’ll find that we are actually able to face our fears. We all have an inner superwoman or superman just waiting to come out and seize the day. We are powerful beyond our own self-imposed limits, and our impact will reach as far as our minds will allow us to. Whatever you want to achieve is truly possible if you believe in your own ability to overcome any obstacle.


    You must go against the status quo in order to grow…


    If you do the same thing as everyone else then you will get the same results. We’ve all heard the saying that we’re the average of the 5 people we spend most of our time with, so if you’re not closely acquainted with people who are regularly challenging themselves and breaking their own boundaries, then you’re not going to be inspired to outgrow your own boundaries either. Staying within our limits is comfortable, and they get more and more comfortable over time.

    But, if you want atypical results, you need to do atypical things and make a conscious effort to go against the crowd. Be ready for a lot of questions and concerned looks when you start to do this because you’re no longer staying within the norm, which means that people won’t understand you or your choices. I think of this as a good sign that I’m on the right path though because I never want to have the same life as those who are questioning my choices anyway. So, if you’re raising the eyebrows of people who are still afraid of what you’re trying to overcome – then, good job – you are going against the status quo!


    Fears are only as big as we allow them to be…


    When our fears aren’t faced, they can grow to gargantuan proportions and slip out of our control. If we aren’t in control of our fears, they will control us. The only way to diminish a fear is to see it in real life, and then you’ll be able to put it into perspective. When we get all of our information from films, the news, and folklore horror stories, it’s so easy for our fears to spiral out of proportion. They’ll quickly become far removed from the reality of the situation, and the perceived threat factor will get distorted in our minds. If we don’t start to take control of our fears, they will soon take control of us.


    🦈  Great Whites are misunderstood!  🦈 


    OK, this point is less about us humans and more about the sharks in particular. But from spending a day with them, I can truly see why people say that Great Whites are a misunderstood species. As I have heard people say before (but never truly believed), they really are peaceful, graceful, and not at all interested in humans. There were 4 sharks circling around 8 of us humans in a flimsy cage underwater, and yet, all they were interested in was the small fish being thrown off the boat! Even then, they would swim up to the surface and tentatively nibble the fish first rather than swooping up for a full-powered attack as you would expect from the films. I now see why people say that when a shark does bite a human, it’s usually a mistake because they’ve nibbled them out of curiosity.

    If you’re afraid of sharks, then I would highly recommend going on a dive as it’s a life-changing experience that reconnects you with your own power and puts your fear back into perspective. But whatever fears you have, I have total faith that you’re strong and capable enough to overcome them and amaze yourself by doing so.

    As soon as we stepped out of the shark cage and onto the boat, I turned to my fiancé and said “right, now we need to go sky diving” to conquer my other great fear – heights! We plan to do this on our trip to Australia within the next year, so stay tuned for an update…

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  • Thank You For The Struggle

    The best of us comes out in the worst of times.

    When times are hard, they force us to work harder, think smarter and find new levels of resilience. When times are tough, we have the chance to get even tougher.

    Very often it’s easy to look back on something that felt “bad” and later appreciate that it was in our highest interest for leading us onto x, y and z. But before the gift of hindsight, we can feel crushed, lost and bewildered when a crisis strikes (imagine The Tower tarot card!) Even if it’s not a sudden crisis – testing relationships or jobs can drag out a struggle period and make it feel more and more intense over time.

    To solve this, I’m trying to maximise the utility of what I call the best outcome time lag. It means searching for the positives when only the negatives are obvious and trusting with complete faith that everything will always work out in our highest good. As I’ve said before – without faith, we don’t move mountains and it is always too easy to give up. (read Keep The Faith here)

    But Liz, this struggle doesn’t feel so good…

    Struggles can be beautiful if we let them because there are lessons interwoven between the fabric of our existence. When they are pulled apart and stretched – the lessons can finally be released and rise to the surface. This is why all trials and tribulations are really a wonderful thing. We move forward, we grow and we learn. If we can be thankful for the outcomes in the midst of the struggle period, then we are truly living in a state of gratitude and honouring our full vibrational frequency. If we can live from a high vibrational frequency as much as possible, then we are easing into beautiful new realities all the time and attracting more of the goodness that we find easier to love.

    One of the best concepts that I’ve learnt this year is Caroline Dweck’s distinction between a “growth” or a “fixed” mindset. Superachievers like Arnold Schwartzenegger and Mohammed Ali have a growth mindset because they’re always looking for the next struggle in order to grow and elevate to their next level. People with a fixed mindset will never reach the same heights of greatness because they may be doing well, but they find too much comfort in the tried and tested route that they already know. In other words, they are trying to sidestep the struggle.

    In order to truly grow, we have to flow with the struggle. Embrace it and sometimes even look for it when the next level is calling us. Breaking boundaries is not comfortable, and clearing out relationships and clutter to make way for a life upgrade is definitely not comfortable either. But what is on the other side of the struggle is great, and so we should be grateful for the struggle as the vessel which takes us there.

    Whether we like it or not, the struggle is our shuttle bus between realities and our teacher of wisdom. When we thank the teacher, we respect the lessons and acknowledge their value to us.

    Saying thank you for the struggle may not always be easy, but it will always be worth it once we receive its parting gifts on the other side.

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  • The 5 Best Self-Help Books Of All Time

    There is a reason why Bill Gates reads a book each week – and that CEO’s on average read 50-60 books a year – and it’s because they yearn for the constant acquisition of knowledge. They know that it’s the best way to keep them growing, thriving, and ahead of others who aren’t spending as much time between the pages as they are.

    If you follow me on Instagram, you’ll know that I post the books I’m reading on Instagram stories; and while some of them will retire on my bookshelf, there are others so impactful that I rant and rave about them for years to come. The greatest seller of books is word of mouth, and unsurprisingly, every single one of these 5 books was recommended to me – just as I’m now recommending them to you.

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    This book literally changed my life and was singlehandedly the reason that I left my corporate career. The concepts in it are simple and will awaken you to a new way of thinking: the way of society’s “Rich Dads”.

    If like most people, you have grown up working-to-middle class, then you will have likely been brought up to think as a “Poor Dad”. This does not mean that you’re poor financially, but these are the labels that Kiyosaki uses to categorise patterns of thinking.

    If you want to think about work and money in a new way while distinguishing your assets from your liabilities, then give this book a try and see if he can illuminate you to a more abundant way of thinking which will boost your bank balance as a result.

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    If it’s recommended by Oprah then it’s bound to be good, right?! Well, I can vouch for the fact that this book is indeed a masterpiece by the founder of WebMD.com, Michael A. Singer. After taking Oprah’s recommendation, I have now passed my own copy onto my best friend to read. His aim here is for the reader to separate their higher soul self from their busy mind so that we can live a more fulfilling life and follow our own internal guidance without inhibitions.

    I love this book because it has the power to awaken people to the existence of their own soul, even if they’re not yet a spiritual person and have spent their life focused on the physical plane. Michael Singer has managed to create a timeless guide to the soul that I found to be well-written and satisfyingly executed.

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    This book is a classic and, with 30 million copies sold, it has already awakened millions to their own power of creation. The Secret has popularised the Law of Attraction and this short book includes anecdotes and pearls of wisdom from the many teachers, speakers and authors that it features.

    It’s a very simple and fast read, which means that the core message stays clear throughout and it is able to touch a wide and varied audience. This book is a bookshelf staple for anyone hoping to take control of their life by first taking control of their thoughts.

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    Published in 1936, the key messages in this book are still as relevant today as they were then. Throughout How To Win Friends & Influence People, Carnegie is communicating an appreciation for simple courtesies and the hidden power that they contain for getting things done how you would like.

    Covering topics such as making people like you and delivering bad feedback without harming future relationships, Carnegie teaches the fundamentals of personal relationships destined to prosper. The only downside of this book is a few sexist references symptomatic of the era it was written in. Aside from these, it proves that while societal norms change – our emotional needs as a social species do not.

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    This really is a book that found me, rather than me finding it. As I sat in a meditation class, at my local Buddhism centre, the teacher recommended this book and I immediately added it to my Amazon Wishlist like the good student that I am. When I next visited my parent’s house, I sifted through my old books and found this very one untouched with different cover art. To continue the serendipity, I found a love note lodged between the pages which was written and hidden by my now-fiancé when we’d just started dating!

    Feeling fully inspired, I read this book and understood why it found me. It’s an in-depth dive into spirituality and the soul, and while it describes some specific Buddhist beliefs that I don’t identify with, Gyatso translates the beauty of our soul and our purpose on this planet with such raw passion and grace. If you already identify as a lightworker and are keen to cultivate peace in a troubled world, then you could undoubtedly find helpful wisdom in this book.

    “Reading is essential for those who seek to rise above the ordinary…” – Jim Rohn

    I really hope that you enjoy these recommendations and would love to know if they helped you in any way… and if you have any book recommendations for me!

    I always have a high “to-read” pile next to my bed, so please reach me in the comments or on Instagram with your own favourite must reads.

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